When Wild Spirit Storytelling and Pain Collide (blogcast)
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When Wild Spirit Storytelling and Pain Collide (blogcast)

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I recently heard a discussion about the Arrow Sutra, the story that the Buddha told about the two arrows. The first is the unavoidable suffering that happens as a part of life; the second is how we perceive the suffering. Now I’m going to stop and tell you that this blog is not about just thinking about our suffering different, but rather, this is how wild spirit storytelling, ecosystem restoration, and living in a body filled with pain collide and how our stories are that second arrow. I encourage you to explore this thought with me.

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This is the Body Theology blog for July

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7th, 2026.

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When Wild Spirit Storytelling and Pain Collide.

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In the Arrow Sutra, the Buddha talked about

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two arrows.

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The first arrow, which pierces you, contains any

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number of the unavoidable difficulties in life.

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This could be chronic pain, which I'll be

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talking about today, or stress, or grief.

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Life is suffering, the Buddha tells us, and

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what causes suffering is attachment, which brings us

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to the second arrow.

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The second arrow is our own inner reaction

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to the first arrow, whatever difficulty we're experiencing.

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Worry, fear, anger, self-blame, or self-criticism,

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the old woulda, coulda, shoulda that runs through

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our minds.

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That's the second arrow, and it causes more

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suffering than the first.

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If we stub our toe, which is admittedly

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a small, but often extremely annoying difficulty, it

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hurts.

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It's the hopping around afterwards, blaming ourselves for

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not seeing the chair, or the table, or

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whatever we ran our foot into.

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We call ourselves klutzy.

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We blame it on a lack of perioperception.

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We might even call ourselves worse things than

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a klutz, and we blame ourselves for stubbing

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our toe.

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That's what hurts worse than the initial injury.

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Even when the difficulties are larger, such as

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ongoing, relentless chronic pain, it's often the second

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arrow, how we relate to the pain, that

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makes it hurt worse.

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Now, I want to stop for a moment,

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and say that I'm not talking about just

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thinking about your pain differently, as if I

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were asking you to follow some sort of

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cognitive behavioral change.

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Instead, I invite you to see the stories

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you've told yourself, and the stories you've been

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told in the second arrow.

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Let me broaden the lens a bit.

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Many natural environments have the capacity to restore

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themselves when they become ecologically out of balance.

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This happens when the damage hasn't gone past

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a tipping point, when humans get out of

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the way, rather than actively try to help

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in well-meaning but misguided ways, and when

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all the stressors are removed.

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Let's think about this for a moment.

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There is a tipping point with pain.

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Each person's tipping point is going to be

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different, and depending on a person's neurotype, the

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sensory issues associated with pain will be different

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as well.

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If the tipping point hasn't been reached, then

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restoration without much intervention is possible.

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For too many of us, though, we've passed

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that tipping point a long time ago.

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Wild Spirit Storytelling invites us to know where

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we are.

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In other words, I am experiencing pain, and

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I have passed my tipping point.

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The next step?

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Remove all stressors, if at all possible.

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Now, I fully acknowledge that this may not

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be possible, and for those in certain communities

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that are being actively harmed right now, it

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may be impossible.

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But remove as many stressors as you can.

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This may mean seeking medical care if possible,

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again understanding that this may not be the

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best course of action for many.

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It may mean exploring other treatments or options,

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if possible.

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It might mean taking time off, withdrawing to

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focus on you and your care, and what

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makes your internal ecosystem flourish.

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Like cuddling with your pet, or watching a

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favorite television show with your best comfort food.

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According to ecosystem restoration, the wild will begin

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to restore itself.

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I would be a fool if I told

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you that you would automatically heal from your

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chronic pain at this point.

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It is much too complicated an issue, and

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our mind-body-gut connections are much too

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complex to fix them with a single blog

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post.

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We can, however, work toward that restoration.

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We remove the second arrow.

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Examine your stories, the ones you are told,

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the ones you internalize, and the ones you're

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currently creating about yourself.

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This is how we begin to create restoration.

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This is how we learn from the wild,

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and how ecosystems restore themselves, so that we

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can apply this to ourselves.

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The most important thing in all of this,

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is that we don't blame ourselves.

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A natural environment that's out of balance doesn't

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blame itself for getting that way.

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And those who work in biology and ecology

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don't blame the area either.

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They understand that it was often external, man

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-made forces that caused an ecosystem to get

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out of balance, and the same thing holds

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true with us.

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Body theology means understanding that we are not

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inherently bad or wrong for being in pain,

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but that it indicates that something is out

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of balance, and that we may not be

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able to completely remove the pain.

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There are things that we can do that

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will help, like removing the second arrow.

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